Each New Year millions of people declare New Years’ resolutions of getting thin, getting fit, losing weight, and start exercising regularly.
How are you now doing with your weight loss new year resolutions?
Hopefully, you are still holding strong and working on them. Sadly many people have given up on their weight loss New Year resolutions by now.
How do I know?
First, because of experience, I’ve been there, I’ve done that. That’s why the only New Year’s resolution I make every year is to make no resolution. 🙂
Why is that?
Because I think that when we set resolutions we are setting ourselves up for failure. I prefer to think of them as intentions. When you think of intentions you are not putting a tremendous amount of pressure on yourself as when you think of resolutions.
Sadly the majority of resolutions that Westerners make are about losing weight and exercising more.
We think that the only way to be happy is if we have that beautiful, thin, fit body. That the only way we are worthy is if we shed those extra pounds to become more attractive.
What are the results of not following up on your resolutions? Your self-esteem will suffer, you will feel depressed and even worthless because you didn’t have the will power to stick to what you said you were going to do.
But you are not alone. In an article published by Psychology Today, that looks at the rate of success of resolutions, they found that the results are not very promising: “The first two weeks usually go along beautifully, but by February people start backsliding and by the following December, most people are back where they started or often further behind.”
What should you do if you are not doing well following your resolutions?
First of all, you need to stop blaming yourself and stop feeling bad about it. One of the things that we humans do is that we tend to set unrealistic expectations that are not in alignment with what we think we can do. Most of the time our resolutions are not representative of our internal views of ourselves, but representative of what the outside world expect from us.
And guess what?
It is not easy to become or do something that you can’t believe possible.
We have turned into yo-yo dieters, and the losing weight theme has become a chronic one for most women. It seems like we are always on a diet, or starting a diet, or planning to go on a diet. According to ABC News, 108 million people in the U.S. start a diet each year, and most make 4-5 attempts within the year. More interestingly, 85% of those dieters are women.
Only a very low percentage of people who go on a diet stay at their goal weight for five years or more.
In spite of this, the weight loss industry is a big business making more than $20 billion a year in the U.S.
But not everything is lost out there. There is a new model developing that’s calling for the celebration of each and every body. What this model supports is achieving the healthiest and more fit version of yourself.
In other words, to be healthy you don’t have to be back to your high school weight, you can celebrate being a few pounds extra as soon as you feel good about yourself and are happy with the way your feel.
When I went on my weight loss challenge I was very unhappy not only with my body but also with the way I was feeling. My goal was to be a more fit and healthy me.
When thinking about your Weight Loss New Year resolutions, don’t feel bad if you slacked, and are not on track.
You can have a fresh start any day of the year. Focus on being a better and healthier you. Do not become a slave of the scale. Notice how you feel with a few pounds less, and with being more active.
Take a few steps at a time and celebrate every single small goal that you accomplish. It takes time to accomplish something worthwhile.
If we learn how to live life in the healthiest version of ourselves by eating healthy and moving the body regularly, you will be surprised of how great you will feel.
Appreciate your body for all it does for you.
Stop trying to match a cultural ideal that might not work for you or for your body type. When you think this way you will be happier, healthier and you will claim your freedom back.
Above all, know that whatever it is that you set your mind to do you can do, it doesn’t have to be in three months or six months. If it takes you a year or two years to get to a healthier you is perfectly fine, just don’t give up on your best self!
Keep trying, you are a step ahead of those that already gave up.
Dr. Mayra Alfonso